Guys, are you dating someone special and you don't want to lose
her like all the others? Are you getting bad vibes because your girlfriend of
six months only gets migraines when you try to kiss her goodnight at her
doorstep? Does it bother you that your wife is meeting too many perverts in
chat rooms on the Internet?
And to you Moms: Do you have a good son or nephew with a big
heart and a big job but he is an idiot with women? Is your overgrown baby on
his third divorce and hasn't a clue? Do half of your grandkids live in another
state with bikers, drinking Coors instead of milk?
If these apply to you, you're in luck, because there is a new
sheriff in town.
Do you know what men do that women don't? They fight reality in
two areas of their lives. One, they don't ask for directions when lost; and
two, more importantly, they think that all women are illogical and
inconsistent. But these men never ask themselves: "Why is it that certain guys
never seem to get rejected by women or face Divorce Court?" or: "Could I be
repeating mistakes from woman to woman that I am not aware of?" or the best:
"Is it possible that women's choices in men are consistent?"
Successful men know that happiness in romantic relationships is
not due to luck - it's due to using reliable principles and having a plan. Bill
Gates doesn't "wing it" when deciding which software market to enter - he has a
business plan. If you want to be successful in your long-term romantic
relationship, you can't leave them up to chance, or to astrology, or to the
other love doctors who all come from a female perspective - you need a plan to
help you keep Miss Right mesmerized. The principles that you will get from my
column will guide you the way a Thomas Bros. Map guides a U.P.S. driver to his
destination. Guys, if what you've tried with women is only driving your
emotions around in circles and bringing you pain instead of ecstasy, allow my
principles be your roadmap instead.
The first concept that I will define is what I call The Reality
Factor. It says: "Things are the way they are. If you go against reality,
reality works against you, resulting in pain." For example, let's say that you
decided one day that there is no Gravity, so you jump off the Empire State
Building. While in the air, you can believe what you want, but when you hit the
pavement, you will realize that you went against reality, resulting in extreme
bodily pain. Or another example: You speed down the 5 Freeway at 120 mph at 2
a.m. with the lights off, the Reality Factor says you will experience the pain
of having to defend yourself in court. Or another example: your female dates
ask you to call back before the date to "verify," and for some strange reason,
these "call back to verify" dates only end with the dual pains of frustration
and disappointment.
Men in successful relationships move with reality, they don't
fight it. Men, who constantly experience the pangs of rejection, propose
marriage on the first date - over and over and over again.
Rejection, man's most despised emotion, is the woman's way of
telling you, "You turn me off." Read this column every week and you will never
go through this painful experience again, because from now on, the Reality
Factor will be your friend, not your nemesis.
The kissing cousin of the Reality Factor is the Bottom Line
Factor, which states that: "Only a woman's actions truly reflect her feelings
toward you." Men who are ignorant of this powerful concept rationalize a
woman's slights and put-downs. For example, let's say Caprice breaks a date
with Tom. That week, Tom thinks up 144 possible rosy scenarios of why she broke
her word. He didn't think of Reason 145, the only one that counts, which states
that Caprice has zero interest in him (Dating Rule No. 1: Women with high
Interest always keep dates.).
The Bottom Line Factor also says that if Tom were reflective and
had thought about it, he would have asked himself how many dates he has broken
in his life. Answer? (Hint: less than one.) If, after some psychological
detective work, Tom had discovered that Caprice broke the date because her
father did not give her a bicycle on her tenth birthday like he had promised;
it still wouldn't have made a difference. The Bottom Line Factor says that if
she breaks the date, she is not interested in Tom. Sadly, most men call back
for another beating rather than utilize The Bottom Line Factor.
If you never want to be a guest on the Jerry Springer show, then
allow me protect your heart. If you are a guy who wants to keep Miss Right
forever, and not share her with her good-looking boss or lose her in divorce
court - then please allow me to be your relationship
coach.
