Hi Mark,

Congratulations! You did two things right. First, you went after an old-fashioned farm girl. These girls see cows born and shovel manure - in other words: they are taught to work and to carry their own weight. Second - and more important - you read her Interest Level correctly. I usually beat up the guys in my articles for being too subjective, but so far, Mark, you've been right on the money with your observations.

When a woman is interested in a guy, she cannot just walk up to him and say: "I'm interested in you." Why not? Because there would be no game playing involved - and where's the fun in that? So, what does she do instead? Whatever it takes to make you make the first move. Most people call these actions "flirting" - I call them "Buying Signals." Mark, your girl's Buying Signals are very promising. Let's take a look.

First, she makes eye contact and smiles. This is just the opposite of what a girl does when she couldn't care less about a guy (which is most of the time). On top of this, she's laughing at your crummy jokes. This puts her Interest Level at 80%.

On the subject of hugs, there is an old Chinese adage that says, "Woman who like man, find excuse to touch, Grasshopper!" Most women are not touchers, so a hug is a big deal. The only question you have to ask is: "Does she do this with the other farm boys?" If she does, then she's the type of woman who touches everybody - which is not a sign of high Interest Level. Let's assume your girl isn't just being friendly - let's add another two points. Now her IL is up to 82%.

So, you caught her looking at you when your head was turned, huh? This is a very strong sign. Don't bust her on her rubbernecking - instead, just act oblivious to the staring and count how many times she does it again. Add another three points for this one - she now has 85% IL.

Finally: her saving your poem is one thing - but your girl didn't even care if you found out about it! She was trying to tell you something all right, namely: "Add another five points to her Interest Level!" This gives Miss Right a grand total of 90% IL.

Now, a lot of other love doctors would say her abruptness at church shows low Interest Level. I say it shows the opposite.

Merely talking to you in church would be no big deal if she had low Interest Level, but with high IL, it could be considered flirting. Your girl knows that flirting in church is a big no-no, so she cuts her conversations short. In other words, Mark: she has class and high IL.

Your chances of success with this woman are very high. My job is to coach you to keep that number high.

Mark, the key to your girl's heart is Challenge, so start being a Challenge by not looking in your girl's direction while you are at Church. You can continue to come by her house, but only do it on the days and times when she's not there, and do it half as much (The idea here is to drive her nuts!). Last: go to the ball and dance one dance with every woman who is a killer. Do this until Miss Right finally says: "May I have this dance?"

Whatever you do, do not come on heavy with her. Instead, kid and tease her and see if she blushes. Love is playful, not serious. Guys who get serious are guys who get rejected.

Guys, e-mail me at doclove@doclove.com with your love challenges. All will be answered, but because of space, only letters of general interest will be printed. To find out more about The "System" visit me at: www.doclove.com or call me at: (800) 404-2644.

Doc Love is a talk show host, entertainment speaker, and coaches men in his seminars. For the past thirty years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with one man versus another?"

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