Hey Doc,

I’ve read your columns for a while, and just recently purchased your book.

Thanks to your techniques, I hooked Vanessa and we’ve been together for over a year now. We love each other, Doc, and for the most part the relationship has been fine. Vanessa is Beautiful, Self-Reliant, and has a good overall attitude. So far, so good.

Our biggest sticking point is her best friend and roommate. This girl is always whispering dirty little things to Vanessa and tries to break us up so that she can have my girl all to herself. My problem is that Vanessa stays friends with her. For instance, the roommate couldn’t pay her share of the rent once, so she moved in with her boyfriend, and then, when they broke up, she moved back, without ever paying for the month she missed. THE WORST PART IS VANESSA LET IT HAPPEN!

This is the sort of thing that happens all the time. Vanessa is just too soft a touch. Doc, I would love to neutralize this situation somehow without having to take out a contract. It seems like this issue will eventually come between Vanessa and me, and it keeps me feeling really insecure about our whole relationship.

One other thing. Sometimes Vanessa is very flakey with me. When she’s around, she shows 90% Interest Level in me, but when she’s not, it can be like pulling teeth trying to get her to hang out. Still, she calls me most of the time. This has been the pattern throughout our entire relationship.

Doc, what do you make of it? It’s possible that I am too available because whenever Vanessa calls I answer (but I keep the conversations short). Should I cut back on my availability? Will that set her straight? What do I have to do to get rid of the leech who’s sucking the blood out of my girl and get more power in this relationship?

Thanks, Bro!

Tiki - who feels like he’s fighting a war

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