Does Tom Brady Ever Have Trouble Getting Dates?

Hey Doc,

I have a major problem in my life that I just can’t seem to overcome. I think that you are the only person who can give me direction.

I’m 21 and haven’t had a single girlfriend in my life. In fact, I’ve had only four dates. And believe me, I don’t look bad. I’m 6′2″ and athletic, and I’m intelligent (I’m an economics major and have a 3.7 GPA). Doc, I’ve tried with about a dozen girls. I succeeded in going out with those four I mentioned, but eventually all of them lost interest.

The reason why two of them rejected me was because I tried to kiss them a little inappropriately. (That’s what they said.) The last girl I went out with, Diana, was really stunning. She also had an extremely nice personality. She was the first girl who agreed to go out with me a second time. Then I tried to kiss her, but the only thing that I achieved was to scare her. She did not agree to go out with me again.

My failure with Diana made me think deeply about myself. I reached the following conclusions:

1. My looks aren’t what’s killing me. One of my dates rejected me for a guy about 6′4″, 130 pounds. She looked even bigger than him.

2. I’m introverted and shy. When I approach a girl I feel anxiety, high blood pressure, and embarrassment. On one recent date, the girl even saw and remarked on how my hand was trembling. I only have this anxiety when I’m with women I have romantic feelings for.

3. I’m a negative thinker. When I see a girl I like, I don’t dare ask her out. This is simply because there is absolutely no reason that would make me believe that she’s going to accept. If I do approach her, it would be with the inner attitude that I’m going to be rejected. I realize that this is a wrong way of thinking but I simply can’t force myself to think in a different way. The feedback that I get from girls is negative.

I would be very grateful if you gave your opinion about my problem.

Dupree - who feels like killing himself

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