It is said that when Socrates was above the age of 40 and already bald, he could still befriend a girl of 16. Surprising, but true. We are talking about a philosopher who lived on this planet thousands of years ago. But the rule still holds true.

The basic principle is and will always remain confidence. This single word determines the success or failure in dating for the millions of young and not-so-young guys in the world. In fact, research shows that lack of confidence is the biggest hindrance to the young guys who are unable to secure dates for themselves.

Well it is easy to talk about confidence but not so easy to acquire it. It comes from a number of carefully followed strategies. And the most important of those strategies is to develop the right attitude. You need to feel comfortable about your looks. That is very critical for your success in dating.

Most of the guys have some kind of complex about their looks. Either they think that they are too lean, or some think they are fat. While it is important to work on your body by working out and following the right kind of diet, it is also important not to harbor any kind of complexes.

Women, in general, like those men who are comfortable about their looks. Until you start feeling comfortable about how you look, confidence will not happen. Liking yourself is an essential ingredient of sex appeal.

Another golden rule is to bother less about your dating success. I know it is important for you. But once we let the factor of success or failure dominate our mind too much, we tend to get nervous. Tell yourself that it is not a matter of life and death, and still try your best.

Once you get nervous, the whole game is lost. So even before you go for a date, take deep breaths and relax yourself. Also program your mind into thinking that the sky will not fall down. Attaching too much importance to an event also creates problems.

And above all, the best thing that you can do to improve dating confidence is to assume that you’re already there. Think that you have actually won over our woman and that you really deserve her. To a certain extent, our subconscious mind is very open to suggestions and such autosuggestion techniques can create magical success.

Success in dating is broadly about your attitude and how you feel about yourself. Our image of ourselves shows up in all our interactions – in our speaking, our voice, our walk, and so many things. So the next time you head for a date, go with confidence.