You can be as big as a house and no amount of muscle is going to make you attractive to a woman if you lack the one thing that draws her to you – confidence.
There’s a reason why skinny, average guys can get the ladies – and it has nothing to do with money. It has to do with the way he carries himself and how he projects confidence to those around him.
Look at Johnny Depp. He’s not muscular. He’s quirky and if you take a good, hard look at him – there’s nothing exquisite about him. He has good bone structure and pretty eyes, but it’s his swagger that makes women fall all over themselves for him.
There are a million unknown Johnny Depp types out in America – guys who have no massive muscles, but enough confidence to carry them through a night where women flock to them wherever they go.
There are also muscular guys who come off as so insecure that it’s obvious they’re hitting the gym to try to make up for it. A woman doesn’t want you to be lacking in this department.
Yes, she wants you tone and fit. She loves strong arms, a flat stomach, a nice rear and strong legs. But she also wants you to believe that you’re a catch – so she doesn’t have to talk herself into it.
There’s a big difference between confidence and cockiness. Don’t mistake the two. Cocky guys are really unattractive to women because it’s just a man who’s full of himself – and she wants your attention to be on her, not your inflated ego.
How do you get confidence if you lack it?
Well for starters, when you begin working on your physical self, your confidence will grow over time. As you lose flab or gain muscle, you’ll feel better about yourself.
Girls love guys who walk standing tall, not hunched over. The way you carry yourself will tell her a great deal about how confident you are. If you rush around all nervously, making yourself small by pulling inward, she’ll avoid you.
Stand straight up and keep your head held high. Don’t puff out your arms like some muscular guys do to make themselves look bigger. But don’t allow your shoulders to sink in, either.
Take your time walking from one point to another – and smile and be friendly. Don’t frantically look for someone – be the one people are looking at instead. There are all sorts of confidence courses you can take to work on this aspect of your life.