Nothing kills a good impression faster than evidence of a bad habit. So if you have any of the following bad habits, do yourself and your dating life a favor and quit them right now. You’ll look better, feel better, and be much healthier in the long run if you take care of yourself and find healthy substitutes for these habits. Besides, how is anyone supposed to care about you when you don’t even care for yourself?
Smoking: Smoking yellows your teeth, ages your skin, and is getting more expensive every day, and it’s like telling the world you’re addicted to nicotine. Plus, it smells. Smokers are desensitized to the odor, so if you smoke and you don’t think the smell is a big deal, ask a non-smoker if he or she can smell when you come into a room.
Barring a bad cold or a white lie, the answer will be yes. Also, the smell clings to every surface wherever there’s smoke, so even if you do get rid of the smell on you, it’s still where you live. The only women who aren’t going to mind are the ones who are smokers themselves. But there are so many more women who are non-smokers, why narrow your options?
Drug or alcohol abuse: No man who wants a really great girlfriend is going to ask her to put up with his addictions. If she cares about you, she will be scared and angry about your drug use.
If she hasn’t gotten to know you yet, as soon as she finds out about an addiction she will start thinking of you differently, and not in a good way. If you use drugs, even marijuana, get help and break the habit. The same goes for drinking alcohol to get drunk.
Cruel remarks: If you’re in the habit of cutting other people down, stop. Women are looking for a sense of humor, but not at someone else’s expense. If you speak disparagingly of other people, especially women, you might someday say something cruel to a girlfriend. Nobody wants to be insulted, especially not women. And very few women will put up with insults in a relationship.
Unhealthy eating habits: Whether you eat too much, too little, or just the wrong things, you need to start taking care of yourself if you want a girlfriend. One of the most straightforward ways to take care of yourself is by watching what you eat.
Talk to a doctor about the goals you should have with your health. Then, substitute better foods and eating habits for the ones you currently have. If you eat a lot of something unhealthy, try different things until you find something that’s just as good.
For instance, ostrich, any wild game, or grass-fed beef is better than grain-fed red meat. Don’t eat low-fat, fat-free, reduced calorie, or sugar-free food until the research gets straightened out, and read nutrition labels instead.
High-fructose corn syrup, hydrogenated oils, and food processed to the point where you can’t tell what it was originally are all bad for you, no matter what your weight. If you take care of yourself, break your bad habits, and show that you’re a confident, positive, and smart guy, you’ll be ready to date.