Dress nice, wear the right amount of cologne, be clean – and get physically fit. But don’t obsess about it to the point where you scare women off because they wouldn’t even want to touch you.

Some guys who get into bodybuilding also get into hardcore tanning. It’s great to remove the white, pasty appearance – but don’t turn yourself into an Oompah Loompah from Willy Wonka, either.

Keep in mind that as women grow older, their priorities change. A very young 18-upper 20s woman might be more into physique than a woman who is in her 30s or beyond and looking to settle down.

Her interests will change from wanting to party with you and show you off as her hunky boyfriend to someone who wants you to have goals and be thinking of a future with her.

Women (even young ones) are interested in the intelligence of a man, too – not just his physical attractiveness. Even if she covets muscles in her youth, she’s still thinking long-term and how you’ll parlay that fine body into a future with her.

That means you need to be well-rounded in life. Pursue an education, have a job and strive for something even better, and yes – maintain health and physical fitness while you’re at it.

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Today’s alpha male doesn’t win that title based on how wide or bulky his body is. The modern man is considered alpha if he’s ahead on intellect – because then he can provide for the family, along with his wife.

One thing that some polls and studies show is that women tend to have short-term flings with muscular men, but settle down with average guys who don’t have that perfect physique.

This may be because guys who focus more on muscles than anything else usually don’t have the other qualities she’s looking for – like loyalty. A big, muscular guy often sets out on a quest to attract as many women as possible to stroke his ego.

Women are also jealous creatures. When they’re dating a hot, built man it makes it hard to feel comfortable with the situation. Everyone wants him – and she has to fight for his attention.

Compare that to an average looking guy who fits the bill in the stability, generosity, and humor departments and guess who wins out? A fling with a hot muscle man might be fun for a night, but anything longer is just exhausting and not worth it to most women.

Do yourself a favor. Do a head to toe analysis of where you can stand to lose flab, put on muscle and get fit. Then work on it on a regular basis. But don’t let it rule your life. And don’t allow it to become the only thing you’re known for, either.